《西雅图夜未眠》CoCoM

42、法院文件-申请反家庭暴力保护令-证据

　　Exhibit 1: 09/13/2016: CK Approached Me on Couchsuring with Fake Identity
　　I met CK in September 2016 when I was traveling in Seattle, Washington.
　　Through an online platform known as “Couchsurfing,” CK reached out to me on September 13, 2016 and initially offered me three days stay in his apartment of the 8th + Republican Apartments, which was located in South Lake Union. CK extended one or two more nights for my stay. I stayed in Kang Dai’s apartment from September 16 or 17, 2016 to September 20 or 21, 2016 as a roommate.
　　CK was using an account name “Kyle W” when he reached out to me through Couchsurfing. CK used a profile picture of him with a jumping gesture at that time. I remember his Couchsurfing profile showed that his age was 25 or 26 at that time. He used to tell me he was born in 1990/Chinese sign as “horse”.
　　This is a true copy of the Couchsurfing communication records showing Kang Dai offered me the stay in Seattle. This screenshot was taken in late May of 2023.
　　This profile picture in this screenshot was taken by him in 11/2017 in Hawaii.

　　These screenshots are from CK’s Couchsurfing profile, taken in late May 2023.

　　Exhibit 2: 09/2016: CK Requested Me to Connect on WeChat, Deceptive and Manipulative Conduct for Sex, Seattle
　　CK invited me to connect with him by WeChat, a social media application on smartphones that are very popular among members of the Chinese-speaking community.
　　CK’s Wechat account had the account name “CKxxxxxx”, which he used till now.
　　During my stay, CK had several personal interactions with me, and impressed me with his nice manners and thoughtfulness. CK also made me believe that we shared many interests in common, including music and books. For example, he played the music listed in my profile, especially an old German song called "Du bist so gut für mich" (You are so good for me). CK also told me that we share common experience, and he had been to my hometown.
　　At the time, CK claimed he was single.
　　During the late night before I left Seattle, CK texted me on WeChat and invited me to join him in bed to have a talk. I refused initially but agreed after his persist request.
　　After I joined him in bed, he hugged me and kissed me. I struggled but did not say no because of the good impression I had about him, and because he made me believe that he had a crush on me. We had sex. CK said to me, "Why did you only come now? Why didn't you come earlier?"
　　I have recently realized that CK’s behaviors, including inviting me to join him in bed and asking for sex, are against Couchsurfing’s safety policy and should be reported.
　　The experiences during my stay in Seattle at CK’s apartment created my expectation to continue and develop the relationship with CK. This expectation remained for the following six-strong years due to our continuous romantic and intimate behaviors and activities, even though CK and I were not physical living together.
　　However, the expectation is destroyed by my recent finding that CK was married when he met me in 2016 and has at least one child from his marriage.

　　This is a true and correct copy of the communication records on Couchsurfing showing CK requested to connect with me by WeChat.
　　This screenshot was taken in late May of 2023.

　　These are pictures I took from CK’s previous apartment, 8+ Republican, from his living room, in 09/2016 while I was waiting for him off work.
　　The shadowed objects in the photo are an Ikea mug used by CK at the time, and the white magnolia flower I bought for him.

　　This is a copy of Couchsurfing’s safety policy, showing that CK’s behavior should be reported.

　　Exhibit 3: 2017-2019: CK Invited Me to Meet in the U.S and in China, Lies and Manipulation for Intimate Relationship
　　After I left Seattle, CK continued contacting me on WeChat, sending me messages to express his care and affection to me. He continually extended invitations in the next four years to me for meeting up in various locations in the U.S and in China, when I was living in the Europe.
　　For instance, in October 2017, CK shared with me pictures of his new home in Washington(especially showed me the big bathroom of master bedroom), invited me to visit and stay with him.
　　In November 2017, CK invited me to spend the 2017 Thanksgiving with him in Hawaii.
　　In February 2018, during Chinese New Year, one or few days before the Valentine’s Day, CK invited me to meet him in the Chinese city Zhengzhou.
　　In December 2018, CK invited me to visit Seattle to spend the Christmas and 2019 New Year holiday with him.
　　This screenshot is a true and correct copy of my diary on 11/27/2017 when I was in Europe, which recorded one conversation between CK and me before Thanksgiving in 2017.
　　I expressed my expectation to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with CK , and he affirmed his like to me. During that conversation, CK invited me to spend Thanksgiving holiday with him in Hawaii.

　　This screenshot is a true and correct copy of my diary on 01/01/2018, when I was in Europe.
　　On 01/01/2018, CK sent me message “Happy New Year”. He posted a video of his new home and dog on WeChat.
　　Part of my dairy content:
　　” 01/01, Krakow, Poland, Cloudy.
　　DK sent me new year wish message. I saw his dog with his new home in Seattle. Looks cozy.”

　　Exhibit 4: 10/12/2019: CK Invited Me to Meet in Shanghai, Xuzhou, China, Nonconsensual Sex Photo, Taxi Invoices
　　In October 2019, during CK’s trip in China, Kang Dai invited me to meet him in Shanghai, and then the next day insisted on meeting in another city, Xuzhou. I dropped my work in Beijing and traveled by train to Xuzhou to meet CK.
　　In the late night of October 12, 2019, CK picked me up at the Xuzhou East railway station and we took taxi to the “Crowne Plaza Xuzhou Dalong Lake” hotel that was booked by him. In the hotel, we had sex due to CK’s insistence. While he enjoyed it, I was reluctant as that was not the reason for me to take the trip and meet him in person. I suffered physical pain after sex.
　　After our meeting in Xuzhou, in one of our conversations on WeChat, CK revealed that he took intimate photos during our sexual encounter in Xuzhou. Kang Dai also sent me one of the intimate photos he took.
　　I had no idea of CK’s photo-taking. I was shocked and felt deeply humiliated when I learned it, and I immediately ask CK to delete those photos. While CK did not say no to my request, I do not know whether CK still possess any intimate photos of me, or any recording or video that was taken without my knowledge. I also do not know if he had leaked or circulated any of the photos.
　　This screenshot is a true and correct copy of the payment records of my taxi fee (from my office in Beijing to Beijing South railway station) and the taxi fee (from Xuzhou East railway station to the hotel - Crowne Plaza Xuzhou Dalong Lake).

　　Exhibit 5: 01/21/2020: CK Booked International Airline Ticket for Me to Spend Chinese New Year Holiday with Him in Seattle
　　In January 2020, CK booked an international airline ticket for me to fly from Beijing to Seattle so I could spend the Lunar New Year with him.
　　Before my departure from Beijing, I told CK that my period may come soon, his response was:“Can emperor [CK] have one request (to my beloved wife [me])? - Buy medicine to postpone period…”
　　This screenshot is a true and correct copy of the Alaska airline confirmation letter showing that CK booked me the airline ticket on January 21, 2020. The flight date was on January 24, 2020. CK used 30000 miles plus 174.74USD to book this ticket.
　　This screenshot includes his name “CK”, part of his credit card number, and his Alaska mileage number on the confirmation letter. I used to believe/ He misled to me believe that we were in (or at least developing) loving relationship.

　　In the period from 2018 to 2020, CK and I had several discussions about the possibility that I moved to Seattle. In March 2018, CKalso made job referrals to me in Amazon and Microsoft in Seattle, suggesting I should visit him in Seattle. In late 2019 and early 2020, CK and I again discussed the possibility for me to work in Seattle.

　　Exhibit 6: 04/20/2020: CK’s Affection on Me
　　In 2020, I started to wonder if CK was serious about our relationship and if he would marry me in the end. In multiple conversations on WeChat, CK assured me his affection on me but was unwilling to commit himself to more than a dating relationship. He also promised that “we may have chance in the future.”
　　These are true and correct copies of the conversation between CK and me through WeChat 0n 04/20/2020. In that conversation, CK said:
　　“Haven’t you feel any like?” “ If I don’t like you, why I always listen to you when you had negative emotion before?” “Why I also cared when you cared about something?” “Why I am upset when you misunderstood me?” “If it’s someone I don’t care, there is no need to talk to.” “My feeling on you has always been beautiful.” “About the misunderstanding, I don’t want to explain.” “I always care about you.” “I will blame myself if you have more negative emotion.”…

　　Exhibit 7: 05/28/2020: CK’s Lies and Manipulation on Me
　　These are true and correct copies of the conversation between CK and me through WeChat in on 05/28/2020.
　　CK said:
　　“Let’s both try to become better.”
　　“We may have chance in the future”. (– which he said quite a few times, including in 02/2022, 04/2022, 01/2023.)
　　“I currently don’t want (marriage), I want to wait till my job is more stable, I am not sure if I will stay in US or China in the future.” (as I mentioned marriage with him in 02/2020.)
　　“many uncertainties”
　　“no desire of kid”

　　Exhibit 8: 05/28/2020: My WeChat Message with Friend about CK
　　This screenshot is a true and correct copy of the conversation between me and one my friend through WeChat in May 2020, when I told my friend about what happened with between me and CK.
　　Some key words:”from Chongqing, born in 1990, met in Seattle in 2016, invited me a few times to meet in US or China. Met in China in 10/2019. he doesn’t want long distance relationship but likes me and want to see me. I feel my heart is always hanging there...”

　　Exhibit 9: 2021-2023: Reunion, CK’s Deception & Manipulation for Intimate Relationship
　　The communication between CK and I stopped for about 13 months from 2020 to 2021. In 2023, CK told me that, during these months, he checked my WeChat profile and WeChat Moment to see if I reopend permission for him to see my pictures on this social media account “for endless times”.
　　On November 2, 2021, CK initiated contact with me on WeChat and our conversations resumed. CK later helped me prepare my job interviews. Our intimate conversations occurred from time to time. For instance, in November 2021, during one conversation with CKCK I complained that he used to judge my breast, he said I misunderstood him, that was his bed romance. He used intimate words and complained my breast “soft, comfortable touching”. I asked him, what would he feel if a girl complains him too small in bed, he said “flip over and spank ass”.
　　During the following months, when I expressed my love to him and willingness to get into a long-term relationship, CK again assured me that “we may have chance in the future”.
　　In late August 2022, I was accepted by the school that I am currently attending in Seattle. CK used his credit card to advance for my school tuition.
　　I arrived in Seattle in September 2022. CK initiated contacts with me several times through WeChat.
　　On October 14, 2022, CK and I spent time together in Seattle, including having lunch, visiting Amazon Sphere, shopping in supermarket, driving me home, touring my home. While in South Lake Union, CK especially mentioned “Look at Lake Union that we used to walk together”.
　　On October 17, 2022, CKtold me he will see me on October 20, 2020.
　　On October 20, 2022, CK visited my home in Seattle and initiated sexual encounter with me. It was during our sex that CK, for the first time, told me that he was not single. Although I was surprised, I could not believe he really had girlfriend at the time, as he was available for me on WeChat almost anytime. He never wore a ring.
　　During the period from October 2022 through February 2023, CK and I met in person at my home in Seattle, where intimate conversations and sexual activities occurred.
　　During this period, I asked CK multiple times about the nature of our relationship. CK assured his love to me, that he wanted to see me, he missed me, and wanted to live with me everyday, and sleep with me every night. He also told me that my doubt about his love “deeply hurt his feeling.”
　　On January 26, 2023, CK and I also met in his work area in South Lake Union, had lunch together, and stayed about one hour in Amazon office, where CK initiated intimate acts on me. On that same day, in my bed, CK discussed with me about how to maintain our long-term relationship.
　　Our intimate conversations were also occurred on the social media application Skype, where CK claimed that he “tried best to protect” me, that he “tried every way to see” me, and that he, “within the limit of the space and time”, “tried best to love and treasure” me. He also assured me that I was not just a friend of benefit, and he could prove that by missing me, by withholding his desire for sex when he met me, and his care and spiritual love to me.

　　Exhibit 10: 12/2022-03/2023: Skype Messages from CK: Intimacy, Manipulation
　　These screenshots are part of the messages Between me and CK on Skype. As I deleted all communication history with him to move on, I only found limited records.
　　From me: “hug me baby”, “you are the treasure on the tip of my heart”(meaning the best and most precious)
　　From CK: “hug you”, “look at you, jiu hui sa Respondento (act like baby? Not sure how to translate)”,“get up, have lunch, you must be still in bed. ... tomorrow I will see if my meeting at 1pm will be canceled, if not cancel I will come to you at lasted at 2pm.”, “parked”, “ready to open your door”, “I fully understand. I have been in the limited space, tried my best to love you and treasure you. my heart is fully on you when I kiss you and hug you, no distraction”,
　　“I always like you, don’t want to make you unhappy”. “How much pain you feel, how much more pain I feel.”

　　Messages from CK on Skype:
　　“I am always good to you.”
　　“I see you as much as I can.”
　　“(my love to you) surely is deeper.”
　　“I come to meet you, every time I took leave from work, or after I finish my work.”
　　“I did my best to protect you.”
　　“(You feel sad), I feel much more sad.”
　　“You are not any one/regular friend. (you are the one I like.)”
　　“If I don’t care you, after you deleted my WeChat, I can also delete yours. (I didn’t)”
　　“I tried my best to come to meet you.”
　　“Are you pushing me away?”

　　Messages from CK on Skype:
　　“In my limited space, I have tried my best to love you and treasure you.”
　　“I only made love to you, I gave all to you. I used all my sperm on you.”
　　“I opened your WeChat profile picture and WeChat Moments to see you endless times.”
　　“see who is more stubborn. I’ll play/accompany with you. (words between intimate persons)
　　“This morning I said I will see you next week and eat together.”
　　“I spent the whole afternoon to accompany you, I canceled 3 meetings. You just can’t see how much I did for you.”
　　“Take a rest. How much pain you feel, how much pain I feel.”
　　“I overtime tonight is just for you. 2AM, I will text you.”

　　Messages from CK on Skype:
　　“Make love is a beautiful thing. If you like, speak it out. We both enjoy it. No need to feel shame. Should be lustful in front the person you like. That’s bed romance.”
　　“The one you like and regular friend are not same concept.”
　　“Am I also free regular friend plus free sex partner to you? Don’t you think your question is too hurtful?” “the words of free sex partner is too hurtful.”
　　“What I expected is to have lunch together next week, and our relationship getting better.”
　　“Because you complained me take you as free sex partner, well, I’ll prove that I am not this kind of person. Even if I want to make love with you want to see you, I will not make love.”
　　“(Our relationship has a problem, because) Everyone has their own way of dealing with things. There is no right or wrong, only what is suitable or unsuitable for each individual.”

　　EXhibit 11: 01/2023-03/2023: CK’s Sexual Violence, Lies, Emotional Manipulation & Abuse on Me
　　In middle January of 2023, my period came late again, I worried if I got pregnant. When I told CK, he said “”should not be pregnant, should be caused by his “emotional abuse”(in Chinese”被他气的“）. CK also suggested me to take abortion, he said abortion is “just like having a period.”
　　The last time that I had sex with CK was on February 10, 2023. Although I told him that my period came, he insisted and had it anyway. He chocked my neck during sex. When I told CK that I was afraid, he persisted and told me to close my eyes and enjoy. After it, I had unbearable pain inside my belly, and could not walk or move, had to stay in bed, and even cried. I told CK about my pain, and he asked me to “take a rest”. The strong pain lasted at least two more days, and I told him again, he said it was “normal to have the strongest pain in second and third day of period”. On February 10, 2023, CK also said he wanted to see me next week.
　　On February 20, 2023, I saw a social media post shared by CK on the Little Red Book, a popular social media platform among members of the Chinese-speaking community. CK’s post showed his Vlog of his pet dog, and one of the comments on this post was made from what I believe a female. Based on her content shared on her own social media account, I started to suspect that she might be CK’s girlfriend or wife, and she might have a child with CK.
　　I sent to CK on Skype and WeChat my questions about his marital status and if he had children. CK denied, suggesting that I must “see a ghost” and blaming me for not trusting him. CK again assured me that he wanted to continue seeing me.
　　I started to suffer from serious emotional distress due to this intoxicated relationship with CK.

　　This is a true and correct copy of the Skype message example from CK when he blamed me earlier.The content is in Chinese, meaning:
　　“Even if you feel you're wrong, you're not sincerely feeling you are wrong. Indeed, you say you are compromising, swallowing your anger. So, I'm saying there's no need for you to apologize. Because from beginning to end, you don't think you are wrong, you are just compromising. ...The reason why I want you to calm down for three days is that I hope you won't speak emotionally, otherwise it's meaningless.”