最重要的是不再退缩。无论是男人还是女人,怂货都没有人会喜欢的。 She-Wolves就是勇敢的、霸道的、盛气凛然的,亨利二世的生母玛蒂尔达“As the chronicles written at the time reveal…“She was lifted up into an insufferable arrogance, and she alienated the hearts of almost everyone. She had brought the greater part of the kingdom under her sway, and on this account she was mightily puffed up and exulted in spirit. She at once put on an extremely arrogant demeanour instead of the modest gait and bearing proper to the gentle sex. Began to walk and speak and do all things more stiffly and more haughtily than she had been wont, to such a point that soon, in the capital of the land subject to her, she actually made herself Queen of all England, and gloried in being so called.”This has become the defining account of Matilda's difficulties at this crucial moment. She was just too arrogant to make a success of ruling. But there's more going on here than a previously undetected character flaw. Matilda was trying to become Queen of England, not in the conventional sense of a king's wife, but in the unprecedented form of a female king. And kings didn't deport themselves with a modest gait and bearing, they had to be commanding and authoritative. But when Matilda tried to do that, she was seen as unnaturally domineering.”——(摘自BBC《Matilda and Eleanor》) 但又想起希拉里和□□竞选总统时候我说过一句不太妥当的话,希拉里深陷信息泄露事件和华尔街演讲稿事件泥潭,之后失败发表演讲暗指因为人民不接受女性总统所以她落选我很看不起,当时说“选你的唯一原因就是因为你是个女人。” 我喜欢看别人吵架,自己却不是很享受撕逼的过程。 不要太把自己当一回事,除了你自己的高自尊,没有人会把你当一回事。 我觉得是很矛盾的,因为我在心里有着传统文化对女性定义和现代社会女性定位的冲突,我一方面觉得女性不需要学做饭,应该像男人们一样平权,去工作“沙场”厮杀,一方面对于方一勺那种囤于厨房、温顺善良、性格讨喜的女性(少女情怀)也很喜欢。一边胸怀女王心,一边少女情怀总是诗,崇拜霸道男权,比如东华帝君。所以我总不能说自己是一个女权主义者,因为我意识形态里认可男权的威严,思想中存在这样的成分。我是很精分的,倒不如说我一直很崇拜这些女性统治者,正是她们的努力推进了女权主义发展进程,也正是这些可敬的人把女性从卑贱的地位和境地解放出来。