清晨,我照例来到孤儿院,走进大门,一群孩子向我涌过来,奶声奶气地叫“Elena,Elena,i miss you so much。(姐姐,姐姐,我好想你。)”
我蹲下来,抱着他们,“i miss you too,how are you doing?(我也很想你们,最近过地怎么样?)”
“Lina didn't do her homework yesterday and got a lecture from aunt(昨天琳娜没写作业被阿姨教育了)”
“No, aunt caught tom eating snacks in secret yesterday(才没有,昨天tom偷偷吃零食被阿姨抓住了)”
“The day before yesterday, Sydney fell down when running, not to aunt kiss to get up。(前天雪梨跑步的时候摔倒了,非要阿姨亲亲才能起来)” “…” 孩子们七嘴八舌地说着,看着孩子们争先恐后地谈论最近发生的糗事,我看向他们可爱的面庞,忽然发现少了一个孩子。
“Do you have a girlfriend?(哥哥,你有女朋友吗?)”安娜搬了一个小板凳坐在上面,双手撑在板凳的,短短的小腿一晃一晃的。
“Anna, don't you want to tell me about you and the brother?(安娜,不跟我说一下,你和哥哥的故事吗?)”看着小女孩花痴的样子,我笑了笑,被可爱到了。
我看向男人,向他点头致意。“I'm going to debridement you now. It might hurt a little. If it hurts, you can signal me in time, I will take it easy.(我现在要给你清创一下伤口,可能会有点疼。如果弄疼了,你可以及时示意我,我会轻一点的。)”
男人点点头。
安娜开始讲述他们的故事。“Just when I was squatting in the alley, I saw this brother coming. I thought it was a bad man, so I turned and ran to the open place. As a result, I ran to the middle of the road, and a car drove towards us. I thought I was going to die, and then this brother came out and rolled me over and saved me.(刚刚我蹲在小巷子里,看见哥哥走来,我以为是坏人,就转身向开阔的地方跑去,结果跑到了马路中间,一辆车子向我们驶来。我以为我要死了,结果哥哥冲出来,抱着我翻滚过去,救了我。)”
听着安娜的话,我思索安娜话里的信息,同时抬头看着男人,无意识地说道“谢谢你。”
“不用谢。” “Anna, did you say thank you to this brother?(安娜,和这个哥哥说谢谢了吗?)”
“Anna, why don't you talk to me later? I haven't talked to you in a while.(安娜,你一会跟我聊聊天吧,我好久没跟你聊天了。)”包扎好伤口后,我侧着身对安娜说。
同时又对男人说道“Are you busy right now? If you are not busy, you can rest here now. Anna and I might need to have a little chat.(你现在忙吗?如果不忙的话,可以现在这里休息一下。我和安娜可能需要聊一下天。)”
“It’s Ok。(好的。)”
我带着安娜来到了心里咨询室,牵着安娜,面对面坐着。
“Anna, has anything happened recently? Happy, unhappy, you can talk to me, I like to listen to Anna chat.(安娜,最近有发什么事情吗?开心的,不开心的,都可以和我说,我喜欢听安娜聊天。)”
看着安娜,我摸摸她的头,希望她说点什么。
安娜像是找到了依靠,慢慢地走近我,小小的手臂攀上我的肩膀。依偎在我的怀里哭泣。
“I don't know. What did I do wrong? But the kids don't seem to like me.(我不知道,我做错了什么?但是孩子们似乎不喜欢我。)”
“Why take the other kids and bully Anna?(为什么带着其他孩子欺负安娜?)”我问他。
“Because -- because sister you're only nice to Anna.(因为,因为姐姐你只对安娜好。)”男孩开始哭泣。
“If it is because of this, i am sorry for not paying attention to your needs..Sister wants to say, if you want to play with me, I hope you can tell me, and talk to me. Second, do you think i treats you badly?(如果是因为这个事情,那么姐姐和你说对不起,没有注意到你们的需求。姐姐想说,如果你想和姐姐玩的话,我希望你能告诉姐姐,和姐姐说。其次,你觉得姐姐对你不好吗?)”
男孩的脸越涨越红。“No, no, you're good to me. You're the nicest person to me besides the dean and my aunt.(没有,没有,姐姐对我很好,姐姐是除了院长和阿姨以外对我最好的人。)”
听见男孩的话,我总觉得很心痛,无意识地流下泪来,男孩看见我流泪,着急地说“I'm sorry, sis. I'll never bully Anna again.(对不起,姐姐,我以后再也不欺负安娜了。)”
“You promised not to bully Anna because of my tears, but Anna is the victim here. When you were bullying Anna, didn't you think that she had helped you? How would you feel if you were Anna and had been bullied by a former friend?(你是因为姐姐流泪,所以答应不欺负安娜,可是这件事安娜才是受害者。当你欺负安娜的时候,你没有想过她曾经帮助过你吗?如果你是安娜,被曾经的朋友欺负了,你会有什么感觉?)”
“Do you think Anna did something wrong?(你认为安娜做错了什么吗?)”平静下来,我询问他。
“no(没有。)”男孩流着泪说。
“I don't want you to be the child who hurts people, and if you think someone did nothing wrong, but you hurt someone, you need to apologize.(我不希望你成为伤害别人的孩子,如果你认为别人没有做错什么,但是你伤害了别人,就需要道歉。)”摸着男孩的脸,看着他的眼睛。
“If you want to be liked by others, you need to make an effort to become a person worthy of being liked by others, instead of bullying those who are liked by others. Because in doing so, you are not only making yourself a bad person, but you are also making others miserable. And no one can be happy who makes others miserable.(如果你想得到别人的喜爱,你需要自己努力变成一个值得别人喜爱的人,而不是去欺负那些被人喜爱的人。因为这样做,你不仅让自己变成了一个坏人,也让别人痛苦。而让别人痛苦的人是无法获得幸福的。)”
男孩点点头,放声哭泣。
后来,我也和其他孩子一一聊过了。
他们一起给安娜道歉。而安娜也原谅了他们。
我让所有的孩子在院子里集合。站在他们面前,我问他们“Kids, do you think the dean and the aunts and I like you?(孩子们,你认为院长和阿姨们还有姐姐喜欢你们吗?)”
“yeah!(喜欢!)”孩子们异口同声地喊着。
“Do you think the dean or the aunt or the sister preferred some of the kids.(那你们觉得院长,或者阿姨和姐姐是不是更喜欢其中一些孩子。)”
有些孩子听不懂,有些孩子不敢说,还有些孩子说道“yes(是的。)”
那个男孩站在其中,愧疚地看着我。
我告诉他们“I want to tell you that if the dean or aunt or sister pays more attention to some children, it means that they are in need of help, and I hope that you can reach out and help them, give them a little more help, so that they can get through the difficulties smoothly.(我想告诉你们,如果院长、阿姨或者姐姐对一些孩子比较关注,其实说明他们正需要帮助,我希望大家能伸出援手,帮助他们,多给他们一点帮助,让他们顺利度过难关。)”
孩子点了点头。
“If, uh, you feel like we don't care about you, do let us know, because sometimes adults are too slow to notice right away. It was our fault. I hope you can forgive us.(如果,你觉得我们没有关心到你们,一定要告诉我们,因为有的时候大人很迟钝,不能立马察觉到。这是我们错,希望你们能原谅我们。)”
“well(好)”
“But I don't want people hurting other kids because of it. If you want to be liked by others, you need to make an effort to become a child worthy of being liked by others, not to hurt others.(但是,我不希望,大家因此去伤害其他孩子。如果想要得到他人的喜欢,你们需要自己努力变成一个值得别人喜欢的孩子,而不是去伤害别人。)”
“Once you start hurting someone, no matter what you do afterwards, it will stay with you for the rest of your life. People who hurt others, also difficult to get happiness.(一旦你开始伤害别人,无论你后来做了什么,这件事情都将伴随你的一生。伤害他人的人,也难以获得幸福。)”
“I hope everyone will say sorry to Anna for what happened recently and stop bullying her in the future.(我希望大家能就最近发生的事对安娜说声对不起,并且以后也不能欺负安娜。)”