《up in the air & 七夕》北京大泥鳅

1、up in the air & 七夕 有点悲，慎

　　23岁女孩的爱情清单：White collar, college grad.Loves dogs, likes funny movies. Six-foot-one, brown hair, kind eyes,works in finance but is outdoorsy...you know, on the weekends.I always imagined he'd have a single syllable name like Matt or John...or Dave.In a perfect world, he drives a 4Runner, and the only thing he loves more than me is his golden lab.And a nice smile.

　　我们还年轻，如同这个23岁女孩一样对爱情充满了幻想，或许也会同她一样followed him 去一个完全陌生的地方，甚至放弃自己更美好的前程。因为我们都在自己16岁的时候勾画了未来的人生：I thought by 23 I'd be married,maybe have a kid, corner office by day, entertaining at night.

　　我们还年轻，就像这个23岁女孩一样对生活充满了热情，刚入公司，就对公司的管理模式进行改革，把自己当做放进沙丁鱼群中的鲶鱼，直至经历挫败，变成沙丁鱼，或者干脆辞职离开。（题外话）

　　但是，生活往往是残酷的，We all fall for pricks.Pricks are spontaneous, unpredictable and fun.接着，我们收到一条短信：I think it's time we C other people.我们痛哭流涕，we're surprised when they turn out to be pricks.

　　这个时候，我们消沉了，甚至会负气的说：I should just date women.或者说I don't mind being married to my career.And I don't expect it to hold me in bed as I fall asleep.

　　我们就这么干了，我们将所有的精力投入到工作中去，但我们仍然孤独，彷徨。于是，我们自我安慰，会有自己的Empty-backpack理论：

　　What's in your backpack?How much does your weight?Imagine for a second that you're carrying a backpack.I want you to feel the straps on your shoulders.Feel them?Now I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life.Start with the little things,the things on shelves and in the drawers,the knick-knacks,the collectibles.Feel the weight as that adds up.Then you start adding larger stuff,clothes,table-top appliances,lamps,linens,your TV.The backpack should be getting pretty heavy now.And you go bigger.Your couch,bed,your kitchen table.Stuff it all in there.Your car,get in there;your home,whether it's a studio apartment or a two-bedroom house,I want you to stuff it all into that backpack.Now try to walk.It's kind of hard,isn's it?This is what we do to ourselves on a daily basis.We weight ourselves down until we can't even move.And make no mistake,moving is living.Now I'm gonna set that backpack on fire.What do you want to take out of it?Photos?Photos are for people who can't remember.Drink some gingo and let the photo burn.In fact,let everything burn and imagine,waking up tomorrow with nothing,it's kind of exhilarating,isn't it?This is how I start every day of my life.

　　Now this's gonna be little difficult,so stay with me.You have a new backpack. Only this time,I want you to fill it with people.Start with casual acquaintances,friends of friends,folks around the office and then you move into the people you trust with,your most secrets,your cousins,your aunts,your uncles,your brother,your sisters,your parents and finallyyour husband,wife,your boyfriend,your girlfriend.And get them into the backpack.Don't worry.I'm not gonna ask you to light it on fire.Feel the weight of that bag.Make no mistake,your relationship is the heaviest components in your life.Do you feel the straps cutting into your shoulders?All those negotiations and arguments and secrets and compromises,you don't need to carry it all that weight.Why don't you set that bag down?Some animals were meant to carry each other,to live symbiotically of a lifetime.,star-crossed lovers,monogamous swans.We are not those animals.Slower we move,the faster we die.We are not swans.We are sharks.

　　但是，我们内心中仍然觉得，事业上取得再大的成功，也是有欠缺的：no matter how much success I have,it's not gonna matter until I find the right guy.

　　什么样的人才是the right guy？我们寻寻觅觅，试图找到这样一位：You know that moment when you look into somebody's eyes and you can feel them staring into your soul and the whole world goes quiet just for a second?

　　尽管我们一直在修改男友清单，但一直也没有找到合适，直到我们34岁，于是all the physical requirements just go out the window.Like you secretly pray that he'll be taller than you.Not an asshole would be nice. Someone who enjoys my company, comes from a good family.Someone who wants kids.Likes kids. Wants kids.Healthy enough to play with his kids.Please let him earn more money than I do.Otherwise that's a recipe for disaster.And hopefully some hair on his head.But I mean even that's not a deal breaker these days.A nice smile.Yeah, a nice smile. Nice smile just might do it.

　　Wow, that was depressing.事实确实如此。

　　但缘分是很奇妙的一种东西，34岁的时候，我们突然就遇到这么一位，我们恋爱了，甚至于我们想安定下来，想要和他共度余生。

　　但是，有多少人在34岁还没有家庭，你这才发现他的孩子都已经上学了，对方甚至还会责怪你差点毁了他的生活.That's my family. That's my real life.you are an escape.You're a break from our normal lives,you're a...a parenthesis.

　　Wow, that was depressing.Life underwhelm you that way.于是，你对别人说的话又用到了自己身上：

　　The sooner you can tell yourself that greater opportunities are waiting for you.The sooner you trust the process,the sooner the next step of your life will unveil itself.

　　Changes are always scareing.

　　Panic doesn't help anything.

　　Anybody who ever built an empire or change the world sat where you are right now.and it's because they sat there they were able to do it.