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7、你所珍视的将最终把你带到停下的地方

　　夏天--你所珍视的最终将把你带到停下的地方
　　(但要注意即将到来的下一个旅程)

　　与你在S大时相比，你觉得你在M大的夏季学期有什么不同（积极的方面）？
　　1 开始使用思维导图作为我的主要学习工具和习惯之一（巩固对知识的理解，准备考试）。
　　2 关心自己的心理健康，证据：申请一次延期，去M大的心理咨询服务等等。
　　3 我有一种采取措施接近梦想生活的感觉：自由研究我感兴趣的课题，（研究方法，心理学领域的知识，一种能够帮助自己的感觉，亲自成为尼克教授的学生，然后对我未来的职业有了想法）

　　盯着我的墙，我在夏季学期的目标被设定为：:
　　1. 健康、快乐地学习
　　2. 找到合适的学习策略

　　我不得不说，我实际经历的情况与我在写下目标时预测的情况不一样，也许还差得远。但是，看看我的成绩吧! 第一个目标与第二个目标相对应，第二个目标与第一个目标相对应，我现在知道，我远远没有过上像既定目标那样的理想生活，但我现在知道，我没有浪费我的时间，我仍然在这些目标中或多或少地取得了一些成绩。

　　这让我想起了价值观的重要性。我记得课堂上听到的一项心理学研究发现，虽然人格不尽相同，但当研究者了解那些已经取得成就的人，他们有不同的人格，但有共同的信念和价值观。

　　说实话，这真的很让我感到宽慰。很长时间以来，我一直担心自己会英年早逝（主要是由于自杀）且一事无成，对自己的人格配置感到失望，这确实改变了我对生活中某些部分的看法。

　　我可能会为第一学期设定不同的目标，我很高兴地告诉注定要遇到困难和感到绝望的未来的我，你的价值会把你带到你最终的地方，很多时候，我们并没有得到或实现我们最初想要的东西，但正如生活在很多程度上是不可预测的，意外的礼物会在周围出现并在前方等待你。因此，设定目标，并去做，直到你竭尽全力也再也无法推动它一分一毫。

　　我的导师事先告诉我，这将是具有挑战性的一年，但也是富有成果的一年。
　　现在，我只想活到下周一。

　　Summer——What you value will finally bring you to where you end up
　　(but be aware of the upcoming next journey)

　　What differences (positive) you feel about summer term in M uni compare to when you were at S uni?
　　1 start to use mind map as one of my major study tool and habits (consolidate understanding of knowledge, preparing for exams)
　　2 Care about my own mental health and evidences: apply for extension once, go to counselling service at M uni , etc.
　　3 I ‘ve got the feeling of taking steps to get closer to my dream life: freely researching topics that interest me, (research methods, psychological domain knowledge, a sense of being able to help myself, being Prof Nick’s student in person and then having an idea of my future career)

　　Staring at my wall, my goal for summer term was set to be :
　　1. Studying healthily and happily
　　2. Find suitable study strategies

　　I would have to say what I actually experience is not the same, and perhaps, far from the same, to what I predict I will live when writing down the goals. But having a look at my achievements! 1st correspond to the 2nd goal, 2nd correspond to the 1st goal, I know now, that I am far from leading a ideal life described like the set goals, but I know now, that I am not wasting my time, I still achieve, more or less, something, in these goals.

　　This reminds me of the importance of values. A psychological research finds out that, although personalities could vary, but when having a look at the successful people who have achieved, they are people vary differently in personalities, but sharing common beliefs and values.

　　To be honest, this really comfort me. For a long time, I worried about dying young (due to suicide mostly) and achieving nothing, feeling disappointed to my configuration of personality, this really change my perception of some parts of life.

　　I might set different goals for semester 1, and I am glad to tell the future me who is destinated to meet difficulties and feeling desperate that, your value will bring you to where you end up, it is very often that we don’t get or achieve what we want originally, but just as life is unpredictable to a large extent, unexpected gifts will be around and front and waiting for you. Therefore, set goals, and go for it, until you can’t push it any further anymore.

　　My mentor told me in advance, it will be a challenging year, but fruitful as well.
　　Right now, I just want to stay alive until next Monday.

作者有话说

　　标题的夏天其实也指暑校（Summer term)